Monday, December 5, 2022

Book Blast and Giveaway: The Adventures of a Southern (Baptist) Buddhist by Pamela McConnell, MSW, LCSW

Welcome to my stop on the book blast for The Adventures of a Southern (Baptist) Buddhist by Pamela McConnell, MSW, LCSW. This book blast was organized by Goddess Fish Promotions. On my stop, I have an excerpt from the book. There's also the blast wide giveaway for a chance to win a $15 Amazon or Barnes & Noble gift card. Be sure to visit the other stops on the book blast for more content. Enjoy!
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Title: The Adventures of a Southern (Baptist) Buddhist
Author: Pamela McConnell, MSW, LCSW
Publication Date: August 10th 2022
Print Length: 225 pages
Genre: Non-Fiction Autobiography
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This true story is about a girl who is born up north; into a conservative, fundamentalist/evangelical family—but then becomes a Liberal Buddhist.

Her family moves back to their roots in the Appalachian south, where Pam is molested by her grandfather. She later owns her sexuality by becoming promiscuous; beginning a pattern of serial dating, marrying, and divorcing.

She is first married at 18 to another 18-year-old, who gives her a beautiful son—but he is a redneck and they have nothing else in common. Her second husband is a talented musician but turns out to like sex with men. Her third husband speaks five languages and is a Pakistani, but he beats her up. Her fourth husband is a chef who makes delicious meals but turns out to be a felon and a crackhead. Finally, the love of her life neglects to tell Pam for seven years that he is married.

In the meantime, Pam completes two degrees and works as a counselor, and then 20 years as a hospice social worker. She begins her hospice career in Southern California, where she has moved to get away from the DEEP South. That is where she converts to Buddhism. From that point, she begins to look inward for the answers to her questions about life’s meaning.

Pam leaves the country after two failed relationships, some years apart. She spends a year teaching English in South Korea and goes from there to Pakistan with her third husband. In between, her dad dies and Pam reconnects and bonds with her mom, backpacking on the Appalachian Trail. When she leaves the love of her life, she goes on Pilgrimage to India and Nepal. The meaning of her life is coming into focus.

At the end of the book, Pam goes on a trek in the Himalayas, on the Annapurna Circuit. Just over the three-mile high pass is a magical Pure Land in Muktinath, with a Buddhist temple that is dedicated to the female Buddha Vajrayogini. With a new perspective, Pam has the realization that her Enlightenment is ensured; she WILL become a Buddha someday.

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EXCERPT:
After the divorce, mom said, “Don’t EVER bring another boyfriend or husband home.”

I didn’t go home for two years, although I wrote snail mail letters each month to answer mom’s letters. During this time Saint had married a 16 year old and had a son, Aaron. He and Clay would grow up to be close.

Saint’s reaction to my divorce was to remind me of a Bible story about ‘The woman at the well’:

“Do you remember they used to stone adulterers in THE BIBLE? I think that might be a good idea today.”

I asked, “What did Jesus say to the men that wanted to stone the adulteress?”

Saint was silent.

I answered my own question, “Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.”

He seemed to be saying that maybe I should be stoned, since I was dating again and having sex after divorce. However, that did not stop HIM from dating again after HIS divorce a year or so later. It was DIFFERENT for him. His wife had left him.

I told mom: “If I have to act like Saint to be a Christian, I’d rather go to hell.”

She was aghast; but Pam, The Sinner, didn’t give a hoot. Because Saint was the “injured party” he was allowed to bring his next girlfriend/wife home. Mom coddled Saint and his now two kids, cooking for and babysitting them several times per week.

In contrast, she had told me: “Don’t expect me to babysit for you.”
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Pamela McConnell, MSW, LCSW was raised in a fundamentalist/ evangelical Christian church and family. At age 34 she converted formally to Buddhism. She has recently completed a Pilgrimage in India and Nepal. Earlier, she spent two years in Asia: a year teaching English in S. Korea and a year in Pakistan with her 3rd husband. She worked as a counselor after earning a B.S. in Psychology. She worked as a hospice social worker for the last 20 years of her career after earning an MSW degree and becoming licensed as an LCSW. She is an avid backpacker and trekker, having done 500 miles on the Appalachian Trail and more than half of the Annapurna Circuit in the Himalayas.

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GIVEAWAY:
Pamela McConnell will be awarding a $15 Amazon or Barnes & Noble gift card to a randomly drawn winner via Rafflecopter. Good luck!

(All the Ups and Downs is not responsible for this giveaway, its entries, or the prize. Goddess Fish Promotions and the author assume all responsibility over this giveaway.)

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70 comments:

  1. Looks like an interesting book.
    Thanks for the contest. 

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    1. Thank you kindly- I hope you will read it. Have a good Monday!

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  2. Thank you for hosting my book on your blogspot!

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    1. Thank you Rita- I hope you decide to buy and read!

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  4. The "Anonymous" above is me, the author.

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  5. very nice cover, congrats on the release

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    1. Thank you! I took that photo of the bodhi tree in India. (This is the author- this won't take my name half the time).

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  6. Sounds like an interesting story.

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    1. Thank you- I hope you buy and read : ) ! (This is the author)

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  7. Thank you for sharing your story...sounds like a good book

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    1. My life is now literally an open book! Thank you Katrina.

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  8. Congratulations on your release of The Adventures of a Southern (Baptist) Buddhist, Pamela, I enjoyed the excerpt and your autobiography sounds like a very interesting read! Good luck with your book and the blast!

    Thanks for sharing it with me and have a magical holiday season!

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    1. Thank you so much, Stormy! It's a bit crazy, but true to life. Hope your holidays are fun!

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  9. I love the cover and look forward to reading the book.

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  10. Thank you Sherry! I took that photo in India- it's the tree under which the Buddha became enlightened. I hope you love it.

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  11. The book sounds very interesting. Great cover!

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    1. Thank you- I took that photo in India. Hope you read my book and enjoy!

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  12. The cover really caught my eye-This is a book with lots of ups and downs-WOW

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    1. I'm so glad- I took that photo in India (it's where the Buddha was enlightened). Indeed- a crazy ride ; )

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  13. Do you have any advice for new writers?

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    1. Have a good outline plan to put the chapters together. Have a timeframe goal and stick with it. Don't be afraid to go ahead and get the book out there (my family is all mad, but if they love me they'll get over it)!

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  14. This sounds like an interesting book and I also like the cover.

    abfantom at yahoo dot com

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    1. Thank you very much- hope you buy and read!

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    1. This is my first book- it came in just under a year (I'm retired so that helped).

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    1. Sure- you gotta plane? ; )

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  17. I love the title and the cover. Well done

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    1. Thanks Amy! Most of my family and some community didn't even want to acknowledge my book because of the title (and of course because I told all the toxic family/community secrets)! Good thing I'm getting validation elsewhere : )

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    1. Well I think it is, but my family doesn't like it too much! Hope you read it- thank you.

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  19. This sounds like an interesting book. Thanks for sharing!

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    1. I hope you will read it. My pleasure!

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  20. What is your favorite book to re-read?

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    1. Great question! I would have to say "Modern Buddhism" by Geshe Kelsang Gyatso. You can get a free download at: tharpa.com

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    1. I love poke' and fish tacos with kimchi. You're making me hungry...

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    1. I think maybe two more...

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    1. My favorite beach in the lower 48 is Ocean Beach at Sunset Cliffs in San Diego.

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  24. What do you do for sun in your spare time?

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    1. Go to the beach! No, I write and meditate and hike and LOVE yoga classes.

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    1. I'm low key but not a Grinch. As a Buddhist, it's not as important to me as it is to my family.

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  26. looks like a fun one

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    1. Thanks Daniel- it's been an interesting life (often fun, sometimes a curse from bad karma)! It was fun writing the book.

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  27. What was your favourite toy as a kid?

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    1. I loved my Mr. Potatohead and Nancy Drew books. I always loved to read.

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    1. My family is mostly very conservative and evangelicals. No, they don't appreciate that I've told some toxic truths about the family and myself. I've been shunned at times, or "othered."

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  29. Do you listen to music when you write?

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    1. No, I get distracted and want to dance or sing!

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  30. thanks again for the amazing giveaway

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  31. What does your family do for the Holidays?

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    1. We like to be grateful at Thanksgiving and Christmas, giving a token gift. On New Year's I enjoy doing a 24 hour Buddha Tara meditation retreat.

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  32. This sounds like an interesting read about a religious journey. Best of luck with the success of the publication.

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  33. Thank you so much, Christy! I appreciate y'all!

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    1. I did, thanks! Don't forget to read my book : )

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  35. Wow you have had an amazing life!

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    1. Yeah, we have to make the most of this precious human life! Hope you read all the details soon : )

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