Wednesday, December 8, 2021

NBtM Virtual Tour and Giveaway - Intentional: How to Live, Love, Work and Play Meaningfully by David Amerland

Welcome to my stop on the NBtM virtual tour for Intentional: How to Live, Love, Work and Play Meaningfully by David Amerland. This tour was organized by Goddess Fish Promotions. On my stop, I have an excerpt from the book as well as an insightful guest post from the author. There's also the tour wide giveaway for a chance to win a $25 Amazon or Barnes & Noble gift card. Be sure to visit the other stops on the tour for more content. Enjoy!
--
Title: Intentional: How to Live, Love, Work and Play Meaningfully
Author: David Amerland
Publisher: New Line Books
Publication Date: June 23rd 2021
Print Length: 218 pages
Genre: Self-Help
~
Live your life the way you want to. Manage stress better. Be more resilient and enjoy meaningful relationships and better health. We all want that. Such life leads to better choices, better jobs, loving romantic partners, more rewarding careers and decisions that are fully aligned with our aims.

What stops us from getting all that is the complexity of our brain and the complicated way in which the external world comes together. The misalignment between the internal states we experience and the external circumstances we encounter often leads to confusion, a lack of clarity in our thinking and actions that are not consistent with our professed values.

Intentional is a gameplan. It helps us connect the pieces of our mind to the pieces of our life. It shows us how to map what we feel to what has caused those feelings, understand what affects us and what effects it has on us and determine what we want, why we want it and what we need to do to get it.

When we know what to do, we know how to behave. When we know how to behave we know how to act. When we know how to act, we know how to live. Our actions, each day, become our lives. Drawn from the latest research from the fields of neuroscience, behavioral and social psychology and evolutionary anthropology, Intentional shows you how to add meaning to your actions and lead a meaningful, happier, more fulfilling life on your terms.

---
EXCERPT:
Because all this is serious I can afford to be flippant, though as you will see even my flippancy has a very serious intent. So, I will add here that the one ‘rule’ we all need to keep in mind is that favourite of William S. Burroughs’ from his Naked Lunch “Nothing is true; everything is permitted”. Burrough, of course, borrowed this from Vladimir Bartol, who used it in his novel Alamut. Bartol, himself borrowed it, and slightly changed it in the process, from the teachings of Hassan-i Sabbah who was the founder of the Order of the Assassins, historically known as the Nizari Assassins. The tale, writings and doctrine of the Order was incorporated in the storyline of the popular video game Assassin’s Creed which is where I first came across it and filed it away for future reference which brings us to here and now. You reading what I’ve written.

What do we, what can we learn from this? That life is circuitous but the circuit has polygonal junctures with cultural jumps and bends that require an open mind and a thirst for cultural learning in order for the metaphorical dots to connect? Or, that nothing is truly original, that everything is borrowed from somewhere else and made to fit the moment and its time?

Both, I’d argue. If you are truly living and if you truly feel alive you are aware of both context and history. Moment and time. Alamut was written as an implied rebuke to Mussolini’s fascism. Naked Lunch is a chronicle of the messiness of life and its often unplanned trajectory where the brain makes sense of basically senseless moments of existence. This book is about learning to behave in ways that help you get more out of your life.
---
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
David Amerland is a Chemical Engineer with an MSc. in quantum dynamics in laminar flow processes. He converted his knowledge of science and understanding of mathematics into a business writing career that's helped him demystify, for his readers, the complexity of subjects such as search engine optimization (SEO), search marketing, social media, decision-making, communication and personal development. The diversity of the subjects is held together by the underlying fundamental of human behavior and the way this is expressed online and offline. Intentional: How to Live, Love, Work and Play Meaningfully is the latest addition to a thread that explores what to do in order to thrive. 

A lifelong martial arts practitioner, David Amerland is found punching and kicking sparring dummies and punch bags when he's not behind his keyboard.

---
GUEST POST:
- Who or what inspired you to write this book?

Each book, much like an idea or an action, has both its an origin and an intent. A book is the manifestation of both an idea and an action and to better understand it, sometimes, we need to get to the idea so we can grasp what led to the action of writing it.

I have frequently said, in interviews, in the past that each of my books can be summarized as an answer to a seemingly simple question. I say seemingly simple because, obviously, if it were simple it wouldn’t need at least three years of research and writing and 200-plus pages to answer.

The question itself though is easy enough to formulate and for Intentional: How to Live, Love, Work and Play Meaningfully, it goes like this: “How do we behave in the many different situations we encounter in our life so that we get the best possible outcomes for our self?”

To answer that we need to understand where behavior comes from, what drives it, how identity, beliefs and values factor into that, what aims we create for ourselves and why. And, how the environment we are in actually affects us. You’re beginning to get the idea of the complexity involved there.

This question of human behavior has fascinated me for a very long time. I constantly wonder, for instance, why I am who I am. Why am I not different? I have two siblings who are younger than me. We all grew up in the same house, were exposed to very similar if not identical situations and had many similar experiences and yet they are very different from me in terms of ideas and beliefs and even values. These are then reflected in the different drive we have to each do what we do and it is reflected in the different outlook we have of the world and our place in it.

It is fascinating to me, personally, but it is also, as it turns out, a key question that now impacts the societies we are in, the communities we build and the relationships we create. At a business level it reflects values and beliefs that drive actions which impact the world at large.

Like most writers I’ve spent much of my life mining my own curiosity and interests for subjects I am passionate about that have a wider-audience appeal. The pandemic showed us that when it comes to knowing how to behave, most of us rely on the outside world to tell us. We need contact, for instance, with family members, friends and co-workers in an established and clearly understood environment whose boundaries are familiar to us.

Take all that away (and the pandemic did just that) and we suddenly are not sure. The uncertainty we experience increases our sense of anxiety, anxiety induces stress. Stress, in turn, creates all sorts of cognitive and physiological problems for us. In plain English, we begin to malfunction.

Intentional: How to Live, Love, Work and Play Meaningfully is my contribution on how to fix this, how to achieve optimum behavior at virtually every moment. If we manage to do that, there is nothing we cannot achieve as a result.
---
GIVEAWAY:
David Amerland will be awarding a $25 Amazon or Barnes & Noble gift card to a randomly drawn winner via Rafflecopter. Good luck!

(All the Ups and Downs is not responsible for this giveaway, its entries, or the prize. Goddess Fish Promotions assumes all responsibility with this giveaway.)

a Rafflecopter giveaway

301 comments:

  1. Looks like an interesting book.
    Thanks for the contest. 

    ReplyDelete
  2. Thank you so much for hosting this.

    ReplyDelete
  3. this sounds like an interesting read

    ReplyDelete
  4. Looks like an interesting book.

    ReplyDelete
  5. In the book review's about the author section, it states that you are a lifelong martial arts practitioner. At what age did you start your study of martial arts?

    Nancy
    allibrary (at) aol (dot) com

    ReplyDelete
  6. This sounds like an interesting book and I also like the cover.

    abfantom at yahoo dot com

    ReplyDelete
  7. I enjoy self help books & can tell by reading the excerpt this is an exceptional one!
    Thank you for sharing it with us.

    ReplyDelete
  8. The excerpt is interesting. Thank you for sharing it.

    ReplyDelete
  9. What research did you do in order to write this?

    ReplyDelete
  10. At what age did you want to be an author?

    ReplyDelete
  11. Do you have a favorite style of martial arts that you enjoy practicing?

    Nancy
    allibrary (at) aol (dot) com

    ReplyDelete
  12. When you were a child, did you have a favorite author?

    Nancy
    allibrary (at) aol (dot) com

    ReplyDelete
  13. David HollingsworthDecember 11, 2021 at 6:51 PM

    How did you come up with the story?

    ReplyDelete
  14. Do you enjoy decorating for the holidays or is it more of a chore?

    Nancy
    allibrary (at) aol (dot) com

    ReplyDelete
  15. David HollingsworthDecember 12, 2021 at 8:35 PM

    The cover is good. How did you come up with it?

    ReplyDelete
  16. Do you write more in the Winter?

    ReplyDelete
  17. During the holidays, do you put a wreath on your front door?

    Nancy
    allibrary (at) aol (dot) com

    ReplyDelete
  18. David HollingsworthDecember 13, 2021 at 6:11 PM

    Is Christmas your favorite holiday?

    ReplyDelete
  19. David HollingsworthDecember 14, 2021 at 6:24 PM

    Do you like eggnog?

    ReplyDelete
  20. Will you be spending time with loved ones this holiday season?

    ReplyDelete
  21. David HollingsworthDecember 15, 2021 at 8:24 PM

    Do you like horror movies?

    ReplyDelete
  22. On a cold day like today there is nothing I enjoy more than curling up with a good book & a fuzzy blanket!
    The ultimate in self care.

    ReplyDelete
  23. I hope you are having a great day

    ReplyDelete
  24. David HollingsworthDecember 16, 2021 at 7:14 PM

    Have you ever attended a musical?

    ReplyDelete
  25. Will you find time to write this month?

    ReplyDelete
  26. i hope you have a great weekend

    ReplyDelete
  27. David HollingsworthDecember 17, 2021 at 6:07 PM

    Happy Holidays!

    ReplyDelete
  28. What is your favorite holiday cookie?

    ReplyDelete
  29. About how many books do you write in a year?

    ReplyDelete
  30. David HollingsworthDecember 19, 2021 at 5:19 PM

    Hope your Sunday is going good.

    ReplyDelete
  31. I hope you had a great weekend

    ReplyDelete
  32. How long did it take to edit your book?

    ReplyDelete
  33. David HollingsworthDecember 21, 2021 at 2:01 AM

    Hope you're staying warm this Winter.

    ReplyDelete
  34. David HollingsworthDecember 22, 2021 at 7:02 PM

    How are you today?

    ReplyDelete
  35. For a holiday entree, would you choose ham or turkey if you had a choice?

    Nancy
    allibrary (at) aol (dot) com

    ReplyDelete
  36. This is an interesting book - sure to keep me reading.

    ReplyDelete
  37. Have your books every won awards?

    ReplyDelete
  38. David HollingsworthDecember 24, 2021 at 7:39 PM

    Happy Christmas Eve!

    ReplyDelete
  39. I usually comment on the author or book.
    Today I am going to say Merry Christmas!

    ReplyDelete
  40. David HollingsworthDecember 25, 2021 at 7:21 PM

    Hope your Christmas was great.

    ReplyDelete
  41. David HollingsworthDecember 26, 2021 at 4:59 PM

    Happy Sunday!

    ReplyDelete
  42. I hope your Christmas was so fun :)

    ReplyDelete
  43. Do you take time off from writing over the holidays?

    ReplyDelete
  44. David HollingsworthDecember 27, 2021 at 6:41 PM

    How was your Christmas weekend?

    ReplyDelete
  45. David HollingsworthDecember 28, 2021 at 7:04 PM

    Did you write any books over Christmas?

    ReplyDelete
  46. This sounds like a good, much needed book.

    ReplyDelete
  47. David HollingsworthDecember 29, 2021 at 9:59 PM

    What's your favorite guility pleasure?

    ReplyDelete
  48. Do you read yourself & if so have a favorite author?

    ReplyDelete
  49. David HollingsworthDecember 30, 2021 at 8:55 PM

    Do you have ideas for another book?

    ReplyDelete
  50. Are you glad when a book is finished?

    ReplyDelete
  51. I so enjoyed reading the excerpt - well done!

    ReplyDelete
  52. David HollingsworthDecember 31, 2021 at 5:54 PM

    Happy New Year!

    ReplyDelete
  53. What would you say to an author who wanted to design their own cover?

    ReplyDelete
  54. Do you have any plans for new books for 2022?

    ReplyDelete
  55. David HollingsworthJanuary 1, 2022 at 10:34 PM

    How was your New Year's?

    ReplyDelete
  56. What is your 2022 goals as an author?

    ReplyDelete
  57. Do you ever hit road blocks when writing a book?

    ReplyDelete
  58. I hope you had a relaxing day

    ReplyDelete
  59. Did you have a good New Year's Eve?

    ReplyDelete
  60. Hope your new years was full of fun!

    ReplyDelete
  61. How old were you when your first book was published and about how long did it take you to write it?

    ReplyDelete
  62. David HollingsworthJanuary 3, 2022 at 7:40 PM

    What inspired you to become an author?

    ReplyDelete
  63. Author how old was you when you started writing?

    ReplyDelete
  64. How many books have you written and which is your favorite?

    ReplyDelete
  65. David HollingsworthJanuary 4, 2022 at 8:31 PM

    How do you de-stress?

    ReplyDelete
  66. How long does it take you to write a book?

    ReplyDelete
  67. After writing a book how do you celebrate ??

    ReplyDelete
  68. David HollingsworthJanuary 6, 2022 at 2:35 AM

    I hope your week is going good.

    ReplyDelete
  69. What part of the book did you have the hardest time writing?

    ReplyDelete
  70. I cant wait to read your book

    ReplyDelete
  71. I try very hard to live a meaningful life and do all things with intention. Sounds like a wonderful book that will help so many people.

    ReplyDelete
  72. This book really does sound amazing!!

    ReplyDelete
  73. If you could tell your younger writing self anything, what would it be?

    ReplyDelete
  74. thank you for a chance to win :)

    ReplyDelete
  75. David HollingsworthJanuary 7, 2022 at 9:00 PM

    What did you want to be when you were young?

    ReplyDelete
  76. What book are you reading now?

    ReplyDelete
  77. David HollingsworthJanuary 8, 2022 at 6:43 PM

    How did you come up with book?

    ReplyDelete
  78. What is your all time favorite book that you have read.

    ReplyDelete
  79. When sitting down to write a book what is most inspiring?

    ReplyDelete
  80. Did you ever consider writing under a pseudonym?

    ReplyDelete
  81. Sounds like a great read and love the cover too.
    heather
    hgtempaddy

    ReplyDelete
  82. David HollingsworthJanuary 9, 2022 at 8:58 PM

    What's your favorite movie?

    ReplyDelete
  83. How do you prepare yourself for the next chapter of each book?

    ReplyDelete
  84. David HollingsworthJanuary 10, 2022 at 7:27 PM

    Did you like school?

    ReplyDelete
  85. Where is your favorite place to write?

    ReplyDelete
  86. After writing a book how do you celebrate?

    ReplyDelete
  87. Does writing energize or exhaust you?

    ReplyDelete
  88. What is your favorite the start, middle or the end when writing a book?

    ReplyDelete
  89. I hope your day is going amazing

    ReplyDelete
  90. Where do you get your ideas for writing?

    ReplyDelete
  91. Do you have characters living in your head?

    ReplyDelete
  92. Do you do anything special to treat yourself after finishing a book?

    ReplyDelete
  93. David HollingsworthJanuary 13, 2022 at 10:30 PM

    Just saying hi.

    ReplyDelete
  94. What advice do you have for writers?

    ReplyDelete
  95. David HollingsworthJanuary 14, 2022 at 9:29 PM

    What brings you joy?

    ReplyDelete
  96. What part of the book was the most fun to write?

    ReplyDelete
  97. David HollingsworthJanuary 15, 2022 at 9:29 PM

    What annoys you?

    ReplyDelete
  98. I so enjoyed reading the excerpt- well done!

    ReplyDelete
  99. I hope you enjoyed your weekend

    ReplyDelete
  100. David HollingsworthJanuary 17, 2022 at 2:42 AM

    How do you feel about snow?

    ReplyDelete
  101. I am adding this book to my to be read soon list!

    ReplyDelete
  102. What inspires your book plots?

    ReplyDelete
  103. Have you noticed that the days are getting longer?

    ReplyDelete
  104. What is the first book that made you cry?

    ReplyDelete
  105. David HollingsworthJanuary 18, 2022 at 9:12 PM

    How many book have you written?

    ReplyDelete
  106. What’s the best way to market your books?

    ReplyDelete
  107. What is your favorite childhood book?

    ReplyDelete
  108. I love this books details sounds like a great read.

    ReplyDelete
  109. David HollingsworthJanuary 19, 2022 at 8:54 PM

    How do you deal with a migraine?

    ReplyDelete
  110. Do you take a daily walk to clear your head?

    ReplyDelete
  111. This sounds like an interesting book to read. I also like the cover.

    ReplyDelete
  112. sounds like a super neat book!

    ReplyDelete
  113. Do you have any advice for new writers?

    ReplyDelete
  114. This so sounds like my kind of read and I love the cover too.
    heather
    hgtempaddy

    ReplyDelete
  115. David HollingsworthJanuary 20, 2022 at 8:41 PM

    What kind of writer would you say you are?

    ReplyDelete
  116. What's your New Year's Resolution?

    ReplyDelete
  117. David HollingsworthJanuary 21, 2022 at 8:13 PM

    How would you describe your writing?

    ReplyDelete
  118. What is the best piece of advice you have received?

    ReplyDelete
  119. Hope your weekend is going amazing!

    ReplyDelete
  120. David HollingsworthJanuary 22, 2022 at 9:06 PM

    Ever you ever been to New York?

    ReplyDelete
  121. Is anyone else in your family an author?

    ReplyDelete
  122. At what age did you know you wanted to be an author?

    ReplyDelete
  123. What is your favorite travel destination?

    ReplyDelete
  124. David HollingsworthJanuary 23, 2022 at 7:47 PM

    Have you ever been to Las Vegas?

    ReplyDelete
  125. Do you think about your next book while writing the current one?

    ReplyDelete
  126. Happy Monday! Hope you have an amazing reading adventure week!

    ReplyDelete
  127. How do you select the names of your characters?

    ReplyDelete
  128. David HollingsworthJanuary 25, 2022 at 3:20 AM

    So you like to read own books?

    ReplyDelete
  129. Author, who is your idol author?

    ReplyDelete
  130. What kind of books do you read?

    ReplyDelete
  131. This sounds like a great read that I would really enjoy.

    ReplyDelete
  132. Ohhh Id love to cozy up and read this!

    ReplyDelete
  133. If you didn’t write, what would you do for work?

    ReplyDelete
  134. What is your favorite type of music?

    ReplyDelete
  135. David HollingsworthJanuary 26, 2022 at 8:08 PM

    Do you like to take long walks?

    ReplyDelete
  136. How long on average does it take you to write a book?

    ReplyDelete
  137. What is your favorite place to do your writing?

    ReplyDelete
  138. What do you do when you're stuck?

    ReplyDelete
  139. David HollingsworthJanuary 28, 2022 at 3:14 AM

    What's your favorite song?

    ReplyDelete
  140. How do you handle writing slumps?

    ReplyDelete
  141. David HollingsworthJanuary 29, 2022 at 11:17 PM

    How's the weather where you are?

    ReplyDelete
  142. Snow, Coffee and a good book is how I spent my weekend, how about you?

    ReplyDelete
  143. I think I would have a hard time putting this book down after starting to read it.

    ReplyDelete
  144. David HollingsworthJanuary 31, 2022 at 8:39 PM

    Do you ever read your own books?

    ReplyDelete
  145. What's your drink of choice when you're writing?

    ReplyDelete
  146. David HollingsworthFebruary 1, 2022 at 7:33 PM

    Where do you go for inspiration?

    ReplyDelete
  147. Do you have a favorite space to do your writing?

    ReplyDelete
  148. Its a major snow storm here so I am reading all weekend!

    ReplyDelete
  149. What did you want to be when you grew up?

    ReplyDelete
  150. David HollingsworthFebruary 2, 2022 at 9:26 PM

    Were you ever bullied?

    ReplyDelete
  151. Hope everyone is having a wonderful week!

    ReplyDelete
  152. David HollingsworthFebruary 3, 2022 at 6:55 PM

    How many ideas do you come up with for a book?

    ReplyDelete
  153. How long did it take you write the book?

    ReplyDelete
  154. Plans for this weekend? We are snowed in!!

    ReplyDelete
  155. Do you have a favorite way to relax?

    ReplyDelete