Friday, November 12, 2021

Virtual Book Tour and Giveaway - Lady and the Tribe: How to Create Empowering Friendship Circles by Brenda Billings Ridgley

Welcome to my stop on the book tour for Lady and the Tribe: How to Create Empowering Friendship Circles by Brenda Billings Ridgley. This book tour was organized by Goddess Fish Promotions. On my stop, I have an excerpt from the book as well as an awesome empowering guest post from the author. There's also the tour wide giveaway for a chance to win a $25 Amazon or Barnes & Noble gift card and a Cape Diablo wrap bracelet. Be sure to visit the other stops on the tour for more content. Enjoy!
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Title: Lady and the Tribe: How to Create Empowering Friendship Circles
Author: Brenda Billings Ridgley
Publisher: Whole You Media
Publication Date: September 22nd 2021
Print Length: 234 pages
Genre: Self-Help
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Wives, mothers, and career women—we have all fallen victim to the silent epidemic that is, literally . . . letting ourselves go. Not the makeup free, yoga pants, weight gain routine. Little by little, we have allowed our preferences, interests, and individuality to slip away until we no longer recognize ourselves outside of our role as wives, mothers, or professionals. Who we are has become what we do.

In the process, our friendships have become the casualty of a “busy life” and lack consistency and depth. We have a gaping hole inside us that longs to be filled. How do we reclaim who we really are and fill this empty space that seemed to appear from nowhere? The answer lies in our Tribe. Our best friends see us more clearly than we see ourselves and are representations and extensions of our individuality. They are our companions, cheerleaders, and counselors—always in our corner. They are the branches of our tree of life that lift and support us, so we can flourish. Our Tribe is the family with whom we choose to live our life . . . with no strings attached.

Lady and the Tribe is a blueprint for building deep connections. As you read, you’ll be swept away on a journey of friendship as the author shares her own personal stories and those of other women. In the process, you’ll discover how to find, nurture, and deepen friendships and create a Tribe culture that is unique to you.

We can become whole again through the power of connection.

When three or more gather, we are Tribe.

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EXCERPT:
The Tribe

Traditionally, a Tribe is a social division in society consisting of families or communities linked by social, economic, religious, or blood ties. Some Tribes have a common culture and dialect, and typically they have a recognized leader. A customary Tribe is a face-to-face community, relatively bound by kinship relations, reciprocal exchange, and strong ties to place.

The term Tribe should be utilized only with great respect and consideration of its origins. It is with the term’s heritage in mind that I aspire to create that culture with my closest friends. This social division, group, or pack are linked by common social patterns, interests, and sometimes, goals. As the group connects together over time, they establish the Tribe’s personality, lingo, patterns, and rituals.

Your Tribal space feels like home when you arrive. It is safe, encouraging and makes you feel relevant because you are truly seen. Your Tribe cares about your opinions and what you have to say. They are proud of your talents and strengths and are not threatened by your success. Your Tribe will promote rather than ignore or diminish your wins. Although these close friends can be a great influence for you to be better and do better, there is no contest; you do not feel competitive with one another. The experience of finding your Tribe can be life changing. It becomes a mirror reaffirming who you are and where you belong.
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
BRENDA RIDGLEY is an author, speaker, and girlfriend guru who loves helping women connect, find success, and discover joy through friendship. Her mission is to start a movement: women coming together to build thousands of new Lady Tribes around the globe. Through her workshops, vlogs, blogs, and book clubs, Brenda helps women connect and communicate with respect, love, and trust. She holds an MA in human resources and has spent decades cultivating her own Tribe.
 
A Colorado girl at heart, Brenda lives in the Carbon Valley area with her husband, Parker, two kids, Parker Jr. and Gillian, and pooch, Perry. She enjoys hiking and has conquered Longs Peak and several other 14’ers.

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GUEST POST:
No Contest!
by Brenda Billings Ridgley


For this piece I was asked to share my opinion of what is the most pointless advice that women are given. As I did my research and interviews on friendship for Lady and the Tribe, I heard over and over again things like “I just don’t trust other women,” or “I have more guy friends than girlfriends.” I even heard women say that they would much rather work for a man than a woman! What? That really hurt my heart. This mantra is not so much “advice,” but rather bad programming.

Women are born natural collaborators. We are nurturing, caring, and giving of ourselves… sometimes to a fault! So how did this happen? When did we turn on each other?

I suspect that this shift began during the women’s movement. Please do not gasp and throw stones at me just yet because of this statement. The women’s movement was an especially important effort for much needed change in the work environment. We are grateful for the efforts of the strong amazing women leaders that forged a path for equitable pay and opportunity.

In 1776, we as a nation declared that all men are created equal, endowed with inalienable rights, while women were left marginalized to fight for equal treatment. The History, Art & Archives page on the US House of Representatives site reports that the fight for women’s suffrage in the United States began in 1917 with the women’s rights movement. This reform effort encompassed a broad spectrum of goals before its leaders decided to focus first on securing the vote for women. Women continued to fight for equal rights, most significantly in the 1960s, when women fought not only the laws and stereotypes that limited a woman's role in society.

This is all good stuff! However, where we veered off course as a gender is trying to compete like men do in a man’s world. First of all, the notion that we must hold others back so that we may succeed is an absurd practice. Men see this competition as a somewhat friendly game and they can “leave it on the court.” For many women it goes against our nature, it hurts, and we carry it with us. It is only natural that we recognize this behavior as a betrayal because it is not who we are.

We can do better ladies. It will take a shift in our thinking and go against conforming to the man’s world in business practices. We can build on the heroic efforts of the women’s movement and make the work environment our own. This revolution will transfer from our work lives and enhance our personal relationships with each other. We can succeed and be notably more productive when we decide to return to our collaborative natures and lift each other up. We often share the same hopes, dreams and goals and there is enough for everyone. There really is no contest.
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GIVEAWAY:
Brenda Billings Ridgley will be awarding a $25 Amazon or Barnes & Noble gift card and a Cape Diablo wrap bracelet to a randomly drawn winner via Rafflecopter. Good luck!
(US only.)

(All the Ups and Downs is not responsible for this giveaway, its entries, or the prize. Goddess Fish Promotions assumes all responsibility for this giveaway.)

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114 comments:

  1. Looks like an interesting book.
    Thanks for the contest. 

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  2. Everyone needs a strong friendship circle~

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  3. It sounds like an interesting book. Thank you for sharing.

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  4. this sounds like a great book, thanks

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  5. Cover looks great! Excerpt sounds interesting.

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    1. I just love that cover too. It is supposed to reflect living our best full life. Thank you!

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  6. Interesting book. Maintaining friendships was even more difficult last year when I couldn't see friends in person.

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    1. Susan thank you for sharing. Yes it was and even before that we were so disconnected. We need a game plan to get back to our friendships!

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  7. What a special and important book. Good work.

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  8. The book looks like a great read, Thanks for your great generosity. Linda May

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  9. This sounds like an interesting book and I also like the cover.

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  10. Sounds like an interesting book. Thanks for the chance.

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  11. nice book cover and the book sounds interesting.

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  12. David HollingsworthNovember 13, 2021 at 1:44 AM

    I love that cover! It's one of the most unique I've seen in a long time.

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    1. Thank you very much David! I think it turned out exactly like I had hoped. I am glad you love it too!

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  13. I love the idea of intentionally building friendships to form into a tribe.

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    1. Suzanna, it is so important to be intentional in our friendship efforts, especially as adults! Thanks for your feedback!

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  14. The excerpt is interesting. Thank you for sharing it.

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    1. Believe it or not, it took me only 10 weeks to write the book. The rest of the publishing process... well, that was much longer!

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  16. I need empowering and I think your book will be perfect for me, Brenda! Thanks for sharing it with me and have a wonderful holiday season!

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    1. Stormy thank you! Please connect with me once you have read it, I would love to hear your thoughts!

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  17. The topic of your book is a subject that might interest many people.

    Nancy
    allibrary (at) aol (dot) com

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  18. This sounds like a really good book! That is so true about friendships, but yet they are so important to us.

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    1. I agree Laura, so important!! Thank you for the kind feedback!

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  19. It was clever how the illustrator of the book cover use the tree trunk to add interest to your book.

    Nancy
    allibrary (at) aol (dot) com

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    1. Yes, I wanted the tree to look like a woman blossoming at her peak.

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  20. Where do you find inspiration for your books?

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  21. I was inspired by my experience losing myself and coming back from that with the help of my Tribe.

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  22. David HollingsworthNovember 14, 2021 at 6:01 PM

    I need to add this to my reading list.

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    1. Thank you David! Please let me know your thoughts once you have read it!

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  23. I enjoy self help books.
    There are always things to learn - ways we can help ourselves.
    Thank you for sharing this with us.

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    1. I agree Barbara! I always have at least one going on my bookshelf! It has been my pleasure!

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  24. Do you always take time to stop and eat when you're writing?

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  25. I mostly write between meals in the afternoon. I do break to refresh my coffee or tea.

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  26. You are a new author to me. Having good friends is important. I hope to read this book soon.

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    1. Hi Deborah! Nice t meet you! :') Yes, I couldn't agree more. I hope to hear from you once you have read the book! Please connect with me! Thank you!

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  27. David HollingsworthNovember 15, 2021 at 6:35 PM

    How did you come up with cover?

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    1. Hi David! The cover is inspired by the Tree of Life and the woman you may see in the trunk represents the woman's life in full bloom living her best life connected and complete. Thank you for the great question!

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  28. Do you have a favorite or special kind of cookie that you especially enjoy?

    Nancy
    allibrary (at) aol (dot) com

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    1. Oh boy. Who doesn't love a good cookie Nancy? I think the good ole frosted Christmas cookie might be my favorite! Thank you for the question.

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  29. David HollingsworthNovember 16, 2021 at 6:36 PM

    Just saying hello.

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  30. I think it is interesting how the book cover illustrator pictured the leaves on the tree.

    Nancy
    allibrary (at) aol (dot) com

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  31. David HollingsworthNovember 17, 2021 at 6:26 PM

    How long have you been a writer?

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    1. Less than a year David. So very new to all of this. Thank you for the question!

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  32. Less than a year. This is my first book but I am excited to share that I just received a very favorable editorial review from Blue Ink Reviews!

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  33. Will you be traveling for the holidays?

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  34. Do you have a fruit that you really enjoy eating as a snack?

    Nancy
    allibrary (at) aol (dot) com

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  35. David HollingsworthNovember 18, 2021 at 8:40 PM

    What's your favorite ice cream?

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  36. Do you still write when you're on vacation?

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  37. Do you have a favorite sweet or savory treat from the bakery that you enjoy?

    Nancy
    allibrary (at) aol (dot) com

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  38. How do you come up with ideas for your books?

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  39. David HollingsworthNovember 20, 2021 at 3:04 AM

    What's the best idea you've ever had?

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  40. What's your favorite stuffing for the turkey?

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  41. Do you have a favorite dip that you like to eat? I like bean dip with corn chips.

    Nancy
    allibrary (at) aol (dot) com

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  42. For Thanksgiving, do you prefer cornbread stuffing or or bread stuffing?

    Nancy
    allibrary (at) aol (dot) com

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  43. David HollingsworthNovember 22, 2021 at 7:04 PM

    Have a safe and happy holidays!

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  44. This sounds super good and I love the cover.
    heather
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  45. Everyone thank you for your participation! Happy Thanksgiving!

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  46. Do you decorate for Thanksgiving?

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  47. You are right woman should be supportive. I have come across those that try to hold you back so they can get that step ahead and I have met some who wish to see you success above theirs

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    1. Yes there are all kinds of people out there doing what they think will get them ahead. I encourage the "We are all in this together" strategy and by lifting others up we all benefit.

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  48. For Thanksgiving, do your prefer regular or whole berry cranberry sauce?

    Nancy
    allibrary (at) aol (dot) com

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  49. Do you have any advice for new writers?

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  50. My advice is to be consistent Jamie. I suggest setting a do-able daily or weekly goal and doing whatever it takes to hit that goal each week!

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  51. No questions but I love the colors on your book cover and design looks great

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  52. David HollingsworthNovember 23, 2021 at 8:08 PM

    I really love that cover!

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  53. Do you have a favorite kind of pie you enjoy as a dessert? I like lemon meringue pie.

    Nancy
    allibrary (at) aol (dot) com

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  54. What is your favourite dish for Thanksgiving?

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  55. This sounds like a book that many people would enjoy!

    Nancy
    allibrary (at) aol (dot) com

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  56. sounds like a fun one

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  57. David HollingsworthNovember 25, 2021 at 5:05 PM

    What's your next book going to be?

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  58. It was a difficult year where I couldn't visit in person with my friends.

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  59. LAST DAY
    Thanks for the contest.

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  60. Have you ever backed anything on Kickstarter?

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  61. Hope everyone had a great Thanksgiving.

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  62. Thank you so much for the chance to win. Eciting

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  63. Do you prefer to have pumpkin pie or pecan pie for dessert?

    Nancy
    allibrary (at) aol (dot) com

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  64. David HollingsworthNovember 26, 2021 at 9:25 PM

    How many books have your written?

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  65. This is great! Everyone should read this!

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